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Saturday, 26 May 2012

It could have been worse

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Laura Brashier is not a name that rings a bell, certainly not one I have ever heard of or read about until recently. A few days ago, whilst waiting in the reception of the garage where I went for an MOT test on my car, I found myself flipping through pages of the January edition of GLAMOUR magazine. I say that because I don't read celebrity or glamour magazines but then to fill the void of the 45minutes wait which I was told it will take meant I had to pick up one from the different magazines scattered on the side table.

I stumbled on an article written by Laura Brashier. I will spare you the details but it was a story about what she went through after being diagnosed with cervical cancer. However, after what was a successful treatment of chemotherapy, what she didn't realise was she was never going to have sex again. Doctors advised her not engage in sex which is a common side effect, apparently the extensive exposure during chemotherapy, as well as destroying the cancerous cells also narrows the vaginal wall and makes it almost impossible for any sexual activity to take place. Since that time, Laura has had 3 failed relationships. However, she refused to be defeated by this realisation and has spent her time researching how to support people with similar medical conditions that has ended their sex life.

Reading that article immediately made me to reflect and put things into perspective. Only last week I was providing encouragement to someone I know whose wife has a medical condition that is making childbirth proving difficult. In this case sex wasn't the issue but inability to conceive. I would like to imagine Laura would not mind being in this position. But then again only recently I lost a very close distant relative, who only married a year ago. I'm sure if she was giving a choice of either to live and be put in the other two situations I've just described or death, I'm sure she'll choose life.

In essence the message I'm trying to get across is that in as much as humans we do often despair and worry about our circumstances in life, things could have also been a lot worse. For every bad situation, there's always a potentially worse thing that can happen. It's about putting things into perspective, whilst not always accepting what life throws at us but at least to find the courage to put a positive spin in what can be very difficult and challenging times that will inevitably confront us.

PS: Apologies for the recent absence, as always work, family and other commitments means as much as I love blogging, it's not number one on the 'to do list' I'm afraid.
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  1. If only we can always remember this :) Good to know you're doing alright

  2. I get where you are coming from. It could always be worse.

    I never knew that chemo has a side effect on sex o. Heeeeey.

    1. I didn't know that myself prior to now but we learn everyday.

  3. This was really informative. I never knew chemo had this side effect. Really scary.
    Hope you are well

    1. I'm well my sister, thanks and it's good to know you were informed as I was writing this.

  4. wow. you're right. I learn everyday when I find out what others are going through. it really could have been worse. Thanks for sharing.

  5. I just love how Oyibos are open about their health issues. By sharing others in her predicament can reach out and maybe they can be innovative with solutions.

    That being said, someone is better or worse off than us in every situation. Its for us to have a thankful heart and persevere!

    1. Nodding all the way in agreement and very true words, thanks for your contribution.



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